Please remember this, you are not bad, bad are your troubles. You are so much more than any words can say. I know how much they can hurt and words are not something you can forget. Words were the first thing we learned. Words are also important to heal. Good words, that make you feel better, we all need that.
I want to share a little story with you for a moment. This is a time in my past I have been ashamed of for years, but I am coming to realize that this happened for a reason and that reason was because I was HURT. I know how it feels to be a victim and how you think, "How could someone be so mean?" "Why me?" "I will never be like that." Some bullies, I believe, are just ignorant and narcissistic, others bully because they HAVE been bullied... there is a saying, I don't remember the words exactly but it's something like "The Dad beat the Mom, the Mom beat the big brother, the big brother beat the little sister, the little sister beat the cat..." It is a never ending cycle.
When I was in second grade I was being bullied because my teacher made me "tutor" a academically challenged student. Everyone made fun of me for being associated with him. One day at recess he was following me around and everyone started staring and pointing and name calling... they were singing "Sara and Patrick sitting in a tree..." I was humiliated so I turned around and pulled his pants down to his ankles and ran away. And thus the bullied had become the bully. It is definitely not a moment I am proud of and everyday I wish him well and I hope that what I did to him didn't leave the same scars that others have left with me... but I'm sure it did.
In middle school I got my first "nickname" besides the 'normal' "freak" "geek" "nerd" "loser" ...I was at a girlscout event learning about reptiles and the guy who was giving the demonstration asked me to role play as a water buffalo killing a komodo dragon. I was "the big, giant, ugly, lumbering water buffalo." And thus the "water buffalo" was born. From there I hit a really big growth spurt and became "giant" and "large" or even "huge." I was white as a ghost so I was "albino" some called me "Gobstopper" because I changed colors with my emotions. It is still a sore spot with me. In highschool I was told "I looked like death" in front of none short of a hundred people.
The scars are still very real, but they are healing and you can too. I hope this inspires some of you to take a stand against bullying. The biggest problem about bullies is no one is ready to stop them. SPEAK OUT and let your voice be heard. No one deserves to be bullied.
We have all been "bullied" in life. EVERYONE, we are the bullies and the bullied. Do not think of it as bullying, think of it as drama and you know how humans love drama. I can bore you with my many stories of embarrassment, unfriendly behavior and the list of names I was also called but I wont. It is all in the past and I am all grown up now.
ReplyDeleteAlways remember that theirs always the quite ones who want what you have, smarts, height and that beautiful porcelain skin.
Fun Fact: The domesticated water buffalo is often referred to as the “living tractor of the East,” as it is relied upon for plowing and transportation in many parts of Asia.
So look at it as they are calling you a helpful and reliable person.
Turn those negatives to positives.
Bullying is NOT something that is a necessary part of life, it doesn't make you stronger, it is NOT something you grow out of. I don't know who you are, maybe it's better that way. Thank you for expressing your opinion but I will have you know that I completely disagree. You can't trun something hurtful into kindness with the flick of a switch especially when the words were intended to hurt. Bullying makes you feel alone and less than human, if you were ever a victim of bullying you would know that.
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