Minimizing

I hate the "There is always someone worse off than you" and the "You should be grateful."  Maybe someone else is going through hard times but there is only so much a human body and soul can endure and I know I have come close to the edge of the cliff many times.  So yeah, maybe a child in Ethiopia is malnourished, maybe an elderly man just lost his beloved wife, or maybe a neighborhood burnt down yesterday, those are all horrible situations, but just because the severity of the situations may be a big deal, it doesn't mean the severity of my situation isn't a big deal.  I guess what I'm trying to get at is this; an empty wallet to a wealthy person who has never known anything but luxury can be devastating just as a loss of a child can be devastating.  I'm NOT trying to say that a child is as important as wealth because given the choice I think most people would chose a child.  But just hear me out, just because some one's troubles don't sound 'bad enough' to you, does not make them less 'bad' to the person enduring them.  Am I making any sense?  I'm not trying to discount anyone, in fact, I'm trying to do just the opposite.  If you are hurting for whatever reason it means that you are hurt, the circumstances don't matter, it means you need something that you don't have, whether it be food, money, health, family, friends... to every person what you need and don't need is different so stop discounting people when they say they aren't okay, because even child born with a silver spoon in his mouth can feel hurt and pain.